Love & Ersatz : The Path to Passion

"Each of us is responsible for everything and to every human being." Simone de Beauvoir

Because we’re conditioned to crave that Big Love.

What constitutes settling,

exactly?

What about soul mates?

Sole schmattes?

Well, it’s different for different people. But you look at what you need and what you want. You may have certain needs, like having a child. And kindness from your spouse. And reliability and stability and safety. But beyond that, what do you desire? You desire passion. You desire shared interests. You desire a certain level of intimacy. If your needs are met but your desires aren’t, that may be how you can tell if you’re settling.The question becomes: Are you willing to risk what you have in order to hold out for what either may not exist or, equally important, may not be attainable to you, even if it did exist? It’s nice to have high ideals, but the reality is, you may not be attractive to what you consider the best.http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200802u/gottlieb-interview